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Don't you feel that you could spend the entire day cleaning up after your family? Learn effective tips on keeping you house tidy. Do you have a young child that is competitive? One who doesn't like to lose at games; who brags about being the winner? Is this normal behavior for a young child say, 5-year-old? Punishment may work if all you are interested in is stopping the behavior in the moment. Beware of the long range results of punishment: Resentment, Rebellion, Revenge or Retreat. Learn effective tools for gaining cooperation in your household or classroom. Use family meetings to create a framework for identifying solutions as a family. This makes the family unit the authority instead of just you (which is a set up for power struggles). Take time for training. Children often don't know what is expected of them. Time constraints often lead to a lack of training. When children don't know what is expected of them or how to accomplish a task, problems will arise. Ever hear, "Let me do it by myself!" Well it's time to listen up! Your child is following an inner blue print to become independent and you can either help or hinder. Misbehaving children are discouraged children who have mistaken ideas on how to achieve their Primary Goal: TO BELONG. Mistaken ideas lead to misbehavior. Address the mistaken belief rather than just the misbehavior. The most effective way to get someone to do something, especially children, it to model the desired behavior. Nobody likes to be lectured to or be constantly told what to do. Lecturing will quickly send children in the opposite direction. Are you looking for some practical advice to help parent your teenager in the New Year? Whether you are a veteran parent of a teenager or a newbie, here are some practical suggestions of how to improve your relationship with your teenager in the New Year. Jeffrey consulted with me because his three-year old son, Jason, was hitting and having temper tantrums. Jeffrey was mystified because he and his wife, Collette, had never hit or yelled at Jason. Jeffrey and Collette were very careful to respect Jason’s feelings and needs and could not understand where he could have learned his disrespectful behavior. Nothing they did stopped Jason from hitting and screaming when he didn’t get his way. He was immune to the time-outs they c... 1 | ||
